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So are we supposed to start the PodcastOne, two three? I mean, that was pretty good right off the bat. A seasoned pro. I mean, a cold open. Just nail it immediately before we start getting into everything we've had it with, I want to share with you. Kylie sent us a video that a woman sent to our Instagram. Yes. And she has a 13 year old daughter, and the 13 year old daughter was super stressed. Had a lot of anxiety, yes, and they started listening to our podcast together, and it helped this girl feel better, that it was OK to be annoyed, right? Or get upset about something that not everything in your life has to be perfect it. Your appearance doesn't have to be perfect. Your feelings don't have to be perfect. And this mom is from Texas. You're going to know who you are, and I want to tell you how much your video meant to us. Very touched. Very much so. Anyway, let's get to that. You know, there's no perfection. What have you had it with this week? I've had it. With you telling me that you and Tabby were the same age, like it was a normal everyday conversation that it wasn't weird at all. I mean, you just looked at me so matter of factly and you're like, Well, I mean Tavener at the same age and dog years, and I was just like, You're a f**king lunatic. OK, tubby. Seven times seven is forty nine, right? I'm forty eight. I just think if you're supposed to be my best friend, which apparently I was mistaken, I should be able to tell you Tubby and I are the same age. Here's the deal I get the dog years thing, but it was just like it was like we were just having a conversation. It was like, Pass me the salt and pepper. Well, you have to remember that you don't like animals and I do. OK, so that is something that listener, if you're new, perhaps doesn't like dogs, treats her dogs like they're subhuman parasites. I treat their I treat my dogs like they're dogs. I don't treat them like they're my children. Well, tubby is my child. How can you be your child? You're the same age and my companion, my son, my boyfriend. He fills a lot of roles for me, and I'm sorry that you don't have this type of, you know, three multidimensional relationship in your life. But what I'm hearing is bitter party of one. Your table is now available. Right. But we know that if you had to get a table, it would be a party of two, right? You, A.B. and then I'd have to hear you talk about nonstop, about how anti dog you are and you're not A. Dog, that's a lie. You keep interrupting me because you're spewing nothing but bulls**t. No, no. Your record. The permanent record has reflected for many years now that you are not a great pet owner. I do think I had just I had a valet peaks and valleys. I'm in a peak with Blaze. I was in a peak with Bodie, which was my dog when I was young. Hmm. But scout the Pomeranian and I. That was my valley. Right? He was just so obnoxious. Right? And he made Blaze more, um, noxious. Blaze is an angel now. The only thing. It's the hair. I can't take the hair. I just I think that, you know, at the end of life when we're in the assisted living center, right? OK, if people were to come through and tell us how we performed as human beings, I'm going to get an A-plus as a pet owner. You're going to get a C-minus. OK, it's average at best. I would say minimum B minus. You go out of town and you just leave food and water for the dog. Now I have somebody go check on it, but he does stay outside. Right. And that's what I'm saying. That is c minus to D plus at best. OK. When I go to town, my dogs have somebody that stays with them as a companion. Right. But we've already gone over. You think of your dogs as people. And I just assumed that my dog is I've heard enough. I've heard enough. I've heard enough of this abusive behavior towards animals, and I'm not going to tolerate it. And I want to move on to me with the last word. I have had it. With couples that communicate with each other online via Instagram, post, via Facebook post, via tweets, via tech talks and hang on. I've had it with these same people that over use man crush Monday and Woman Crush Wednesday ad nauseum. We get it. We f**king get it. But here's what you're not getting. You're throwing out red flags that in between these posts, we know there's a lot of f**kery going on, and I'm not talking about f**king. I'm talking about f**kery toxic f**kery. I will have to give you 100 percent credit. When Facebook just came out like it was new and you would always say, pull up this person. She and her husband are communicating on Facebook like, Oh, you're so great. Oh, I love you. Thank you for last night. You would always say that is the first sign. They're getting divorced, and I think your track record is 10 out of 10. Like, when people start communicating on Facebook, you always say they're not ready to get a divorce. And to date, I've not known anybody that hasn't based on that assessment. First of all, the listener and I would like to thank you for pointing out how right I am. And let me just tell you it is a burden you write all the time. It is a burden. It really is. But it's true. These people, it was like, I love my man. Ah, I'm cooking dinner for my man. And then the husband responds, I love my wifey so much, and I think that's a red flag, wifey. Well, yeah, probably I do. That's just I think it's wife, OK, it's just wife. We don't need to go with wifey and then it's like, my man does this and this and this for me. And I'm like, Who are you? Who are you advertising this for, for each other? And then there's people that do the woman crush Wednesday every Wednesday. And these are couples that have been together a very long time. And I just don't think I think it diminishes when you post it so much, it diminishes the entire relationship because I look at it as showboating and grandstanding now. Listener, there are times where it's my husband's birthday or a child's birthday, and I want to do a sweet post. Even people with cold black hearts such as myself have moments of kindness where I want to be effusive and really tell somebody that I love them, but I just think the people that are over the top. If people are really, really, really in love, there is not this compulsion to describe it in painstaking detail every Monday and every Wednesday. And then the significant other comments Oh my god, baby, I love you so much. This is the best thing ever. Like, somebody is f**king around 100 percent and they want the mistress and or the right to see it. That's what this is. Or they're doing it. It's like a make up for the mistress, like, Oh no, I'm going to prove how much I love you and I'm going to post all this s**t. And then the minute you walk out, I'm going to go sneak off and see my mistress. I just think any time you have somebody advertising something too much, right, you know that that that it's a problem. I'll give you an example. One day I was driving down by the bombing memorial in Oklahoma City and I was making a turn. I wasn't going to the memorial, but I had a meeting downtown and I was making a turn, a left turn. This woman in a Mercedes in front of me, she's making a left turn in front of me. All of a sudden, she stops mid intersection, puts her car into reverse, and I am laying on my horn like honking like crazy. Stop, stop. And she just backs into me. It's like ten am, right? Well, she comes barreling out of her car. She comes over to me and she's like, Oh my God, my husband owns a car dealership. I know your car is fine. Your car is completely fine. I go, Well, I just got it. So let me just take a beat here. Let me check it. She's like, Are you going to call the police? I was like, Pump the brakes. Let me check my car really quickly, right? And she goes, Well, you know, you're the one that was going forward and I want you stopped and put your car in reverse. I was completely stopped and you backed into me. And then she says, I am not a crazy b***h. It's an advertisement that she's crazy, but immediately knew this woman was beyond a crazy b***h. She was the craziest of crazy b***hes on the planet. I mean, f**ked up out of her mind, b***h. So, I mean, in tying that into these couples, I think if you have friends or if you are one of these people that are overtly advertising how in love with you are all too frequently on the. Internet, it's a bad sign you're probably going to be calling pup's attorney at law soon to represent you in your divorce proceedings. I'll tell you another marker of a divorce is imminent. Is the renewing your vows? I mean, that is like an advertisement that we will be divorced in five years, period? I've never seen anything like it. So have you represented? Yes, a lot of couples, we renewed our vows three years ago and this is what happened. And I'm like, Probably should've just gotten a divorce three years ago. So you've kind of collected that data. I've collected that data anecdotally. But let me ask you this. Is there ever in your divorce cases like the people whip out, like on Facebook on this date? He said this to me, or I don't know, I haven't had that. It's more like I hacked into his Facebook, and here's his direct message this kind of thing. Yeah, yeah, it's it's always all this s**t's going down in the dams, always in the there's a rap song going down in the DMC. Welcome to I've Had It podcast. I'm Jennifer. I'm Angie. And we like to call her. Perhaps today we have an incredibly special guest. She is the co-host of Mean Girl Pod. She is also a former employee of Jennifer Welch Designs, and she also made me the world's oldest bridesmaid about four years ago. So welcome to I've had it, Alex Bennett. Hi, how are you guys? So good to see you. You too. This is fun. It is fun. Listener what you need to know is that Alex worked for me starting what, 2016 2015? Yeah. 16 2016. Until around twenty nineteen, I hung on. I really fizzled out like I didn't do a clean break. I remember the day I told you, I tried to tell you I was quitting. And then we were both like, well, I'm going to move to California, but I'm still going to work for you. It is a slow burn out. You do some work for her when with the crates getting delivered to the Hawaii house or something we really know. I was like six months of like lingering staying in. Right, right. But I think it's interesting that Alex is on the show with us. So for all of you OG fans, right pumps in me, you will remember Darling Alex on both Sweet Home Oklahoma and Sweet Home. She moves to L.A. and then she goes to New York, and now she has a podcast. Pumps and I are still in Oklahoma, and now we have a podcast, right? So it made perfect sense. We're all podcasters now. What happened? I never told me. Where does everyone end up in three years? I'd be like, I don't know, but not here. I'm not here. I wouldn't have thought this. This is apparently were washed up reality stars going to die, for sure. OK, I just have to make one point super clear. Do it for the listener. OK. Jennifer was the world's oldest bridesmaid in Alex's wedding. I used to tease her like, I want a big chiffon, big big bell, her big sleeves. Yeah. Now I just got so much mileage out of that. She edited. I remember I said, because I was the bride, right? And the bride gets to pick the bride's dresses for the bridesmaids. And I brought the dresses and I said, This is what everyone's wearing and you're wearing this dress. She said, I'm out, I'm not wearing that dress. Load up. The website picked her own dress, changed three of the bridesmaids dresses she said, were wearing that and then goes, And you're welcome because the one you picked wouldn't look good, so I'm going to bed. I always said, it's great. I was a bridesmaid zilla as I was. You were so not only at the time was I 44 and I mean, really pushing what visually made sense. You know, when you picture people getting married, it visually didn't make sense, even though I looked f**king awesome. Yeah, right, right. But it visually kind of looked odd like, what's this old girl doing? I was a bridesmaid zilla, and I remember she picks this wretched pastel pink dress. I order it as I'm supposed to write. It comes and I put it on and I'm like, Oh, hell, no, no. So I get on the same website and pick a different dress. Go ahead and order it. Because I figure at this point I'm going to ask forgiveness and not permission. Sometimes that's the best. That was the key. And it's so much better. Looking back at photos, I'm like, the pale pink would have been awful, right? You're welcome. You know, you knew right off the bat. I knew I saved you because think about these pictures are aging so much better now. They're timeless. They're aging like me, aren't they? Are you in the exact same as you did then? And it's true. You added in the dress. And I remember I was just sitting there and I knew I was like, I don't have an option. So I just said, OK, perfect. It was. I was a total bridesmaid zilla. It's unbelievable. What a nightmare of a bridesmaid I was. It was probably a power dynamic. You're so much older that you could con her into any. Probably. And my boss paid less paying me. Right? Yeah, that definitely was a power dynamic issue. So, Alex, what we like to do on this podcast is we oppose toxic positivity in all of its forms. OK, oppose. Oppose. Yeah, we oppose it. We don't think it's a sustainable activity to be positive all the time. OK, OK, OK, OK, you're setting yourself up for failure. So what we like to get at is what what our guests have had it with. So why don't you tell us what you've had it with? I think that you could run laps on me around it and maybe you, I'm not sure, but it's it's English like it's the English language as a whole. But for a good reason, because the other day, like so we all do, we create content, right? Like you do a podcast, right? I don't think content was a word like ten years ago, maybe it was, but like we weren't really talking about content how we do today, right? Like, I constantly I'm thinking about the word. And I was trying to tell one of my friends that I'm very content in Miami, so I was typing it and I was like, I'm very content in Miami. I was like, I'm very content in Miami. So then I went to Google and I was like, How do you spell that your content? But then it was like, How do you spell that your content? I was like, I'm trying to say that I'm happy and I'm content content where I'm at. And I was like, Holy f**k. So I call my husband and I'm like, What's the difference between content? He's like, Let me Google. And he's like, Well, I don't f**king know or that same thing. And I was like, I don't know. But like, how do you ask Google to spell the words differently when it's maybe the same word, but you can't. You can't spell it. You can't tell Google you want content versus content without saying content versus content. And I was like, You've got like, you have got to be joking me. So I call on my friends, that's really good with words. And I was like, It's content and content. The same word. It's like, Yes, this whole thing, but it is right. And I was like, Well, that's that to me was absurd. So I started thinking about other things that were similar to that. And I'm like, Imagine learning English and they're like, she'll like she will write like she apostrophe l l, right? And then you want to say, like, she's a shell of a human being and they have the same exact thing, but they're like one of those little line like, that's what that's what you have. I bet it's a minefield out there for you, Alexa. It may not be that s**t like I left my dog at home. I'm going to turn left at the stop sign, right? Same word. You're right. But then you take a right at the building and God forbid you want to, right? Right. This is a g*****n minefield. But here's my problem. What? You got one f**king language to learn. I know, but I don't know the one. We got one. There are people out there. We sat as a country. Do America sucks because we all only speak English. You get over to Europe. People from the Netherlands and Belgium speak five to seven languages fluently, and they're not hung up about content versus content. But then it's like, you've got one language and it's like, Oh. Inner Oni like I do know that one, but it's like, that's what we have. You got a nail, you got to master Alex. You have got to step up to the plate. You have got to step up to the f**king plate and batter up on this thing. Maybe, maybe you should try going to an English as a second language or English or dummy. I am pretty good at it these days, but there's another one that I was trying to think of, like the twos and the twos and the twos I write, I write, I understand the number needs to be different, right? I think the the toe in the toe, oh, we could loop together. It would be fine. But and I understand that there's different ones of those, but content and content being the same word, meaning two different things spelled the same. It's called a homonym. I didn't even know that. Yeah, it's a homonym. We're taught this in elementary school. So what I want to say here to you went to a public school in the state of Oklahoma, right? Yeah. We, I think, are ranked 47th in education now. So I want to say Governor Kevin Stent listen no further than I've had it podcast and quit f**king around with the drag queens and find public education, for Christ's sakes. No, I think it's important that message out there because I'm twenty nine, right? And I didn't know that a homonym you should have seen me and Graham Bennett trying to google on the plane. What is the word for words that sound similar to other words that are spelled the same, but mean two different things, and we could have just googled? Can I have a list of homonyms? Yeah, and I'm telling you they're abundant. Well, let me tell the listeners something about Alex that is probably one of my favorite qualities. I can tell you that when she worked for me, she was the first person at the office. She was the last person to leave. She would pick up trash. She would sweep before she would do anything and everything. So I mean, the best employee I've ever had and always with a smile. She was never in a s**tty mood. She never took it out on anybody. And if she didn't know how to do something, she figured it out. She was a complete self-starter. And so this combination of being such a hard worker and so smart and a Problem-Solver. But then being hung up and brain twist over content and content for people that know you. It's charming and adorable. But I think for the internet, when they see a clip of this, I imagine you probably get raked, raked over the coals. Drug, drug. Yeah, but I've decided because I was, I was forced with the choice of Do you want to say it and have them drag you right? Do you want to be somebody different? Right? And I was like, I like me a lot better when I say it. Like, I don't know some of these things, and that's OK. It's OK to talk about it. It's an honest conversation, right? Yeah, it's OK. It's OK to circle back to elementary school. Yeah. Like, I printed out a map the other day to see if I could do it. If I could label the states and like, couldn't. I mean, I forgot that Georgia even existed. And it just I got reamed for it and I was like, But you, I mean, like, could you maybe could you label truly the Northeast? Could you do it, Vermont? All those up there? No, no. I don't think I could. I can't. I mean, I hate to. I mean, if I had it in front of me and I could narrow it down like process of elimination. But if I was like on a clock or something now, I could do and I definitely could not do like Europe, Asia, Africa, all that. OK, so Alex, yes, you have a podcast that you co-hosts at Barstool Sports called Mean Girl. Correct. And then there was kind of a kerfuffle about your podcast, right? Yes. So like, I kind of got the cliff note version for our listener is you and your girlfriend have a podcast about girl stuff? Yes. 20. 30. Something navigating early adulthood, correct? Would that be right? That would be right. And so then you had a co-worker that got upset about this. So why don't you tell our listener and Thompson are going to weigh in on this? So tell us, tell us kind of after that what happened? So your co-worker, what she do? OK, so my coworker wrote a blog saying the mean girls have to be stopped. I think the most important thing is these clips crush because they make the internet feel. Some type of thing we always say silences feedback. If no one's saying anything about your podcast clips or anything, then you're not doing your job. Well, I have a question, she said. The mean girls need to be stopped. What does? What needs to be stopped? What needs to be stopped is these clips that Barstool is choosing to post. OK, so we record the episode for an hour. Our producer clips 18 of them and we send them all to the main account, guys. They go through them. A lot of them, I would say 18 of them have like a lot of substance. And you know that Barstool World is not going to want them right? And then you've got these two right? And we're like, Are dinosaurs real? Did you believe that? Did you for a moment like suspend? Do I think dinosaurs? Sure. I know there's been fossils that are found, but like, OK, I'm not, but I'm like, Great, I'm good either way. OK. So this thing you ever everyday. And so this video obviously for obvious reasons, the. Six of you, an attractive blonde girl saying something ditzy. Yes, it was viral on the internet, goes viral on the internet. OK, that that everyone was like, That's hilarious. That's funny. And so the girl is like, they need to be stopped. Well, that that was the week before. Is the dinosaur clip, OK? And everyone's like, What's going on? OK? The week after that, we're riffing on hand-washing, which everyone in our office does this hand-washing clip where they're like, We don't, we don't always wash our hands. Then I said people in wash their hands back in the day and they had far less diseases. I know that that is not true, but I am f**king with everybody when I say, OK, OK, I'm smart enough to know there was more like, we can go down the whole thing. You don't when you're when you're on these mikes, you're not. You're just talking to the person. Right, right. So that clip goes out viral, viral. And I mean, I'm sure a bunch of hatred in the comment section. I'm sure I've never read them. But yeah, yeah, I'm sure it's just. But hey, you know what? I'm down for any type of comment, but you're like, OK, stats stat wise, this is a banger. People are driving traffic over to the pod is next. I didn't. I didn't even pick it. And it's just like I didn't even know the clip went up. These these hand-washing dinosaur clips I'm cracking right a*s up at and I don't think a thing up. They don't harm anybody, OK? They come out. Our coworker writes this. Just this blog. I actually haven't still read it, but I because I got to the third line, I'm just crying. Oh, I was, I was bawling. Does it hurt your feelings? I was sad. Yeah, I was like, Wait, wait, wait, hold on. Like, we're just having fun. Did she talk to you about it or did did she say nothing? So she never said, Hey, Alex, I think you're content is s**t. Not one thing. It was strange the immediately to the internet, right to the internet first. And I was like, whoa, because she was saying, like, we make all the girls there look bad. And I was like, Well. That's hard to do like. Oh my, I'm sorry, my dino clips making us all look bad. Right? I'm good with that. If that's who's making me look bad. I'd rather have a dumb friend than I would have a mean friend. That's for sure. Oh, that 100 percent I. And so, you know, you have to check yourself, though. When a hater, you have to say, and I sat there and I and you know me growing up, if somebody told me something, I would just like change as a person. Right? But when you're when you're forced between, this is what content's taught me pleasing everybody or saying, I like who I am and I'm OK with what everyone thinks. And that that's what was going on inside of me was like, She's she's saying, we're an idiot and that we're affecting everybody bad and that we're dumb and all of these things. And then I was like, going to go to defend it, and I was like, Well, that's just, you can't defend who you are like, right? That's just that's just it. So the basis of it was so hurtful because it wasn't like she was saying, You guys are sluts talking about the sex stuff. Right? It was the thing that got it was just us being like silly. And I was like, I think the internet could use a little bit more silly, like, right? Our hearts were in the right place, right? That's what hurt. So bad about it. Well, my thing is, is no. One, you should be flattered because that took a lot of energy right on her part to put that much into it because I would probably guess she have a podcast. Have you ever written a article about her podcast? No, right? I've never written one about a podcast. Well, maybe you can watch one. You mean, what about? I've had it. There we go. I for my first one. But I think that, you know, for me, when I see something that I don't like or say, I just simply move on. But my problem with the friend, what's the girl's name? Kelly Kelly is, if I have a problem with a co-worker, I'm going to tell the co-worker, Right? Woman to woman. I think it's chicken s**t to go straight to the internet, whether people believe what she has to say, whether there's, you know, any veracity to any of her sayings. That's one thing. But if I had a problem with pumps or with Kylie or with Richard, I'm going to go directly to them. I'm not going to come sit down in this chair and surprise them with an attack on the worldwide f**king web. It's chicken s**t. Well, and then you're just you just check your phone on a Monday at noon and you're like, What? Holy s**t. So what's it like? Do you still see her? I will. I saw her yesterday. We just made eye contact. She texted us and was like, If you guys want to talk and it's just like, it's one of those things. Barstool is a place where you can do that. This was like we were making all the women look bad. And then she was saying she was trying to help us. But if you're trying to help us, you talk to us, right? You know what I would say if I saw you did your job? That's a job that you're allowed to do that it. It hurt me. Yeah, but I'm not mad and I'm thankful for it. I told Graham. If we could do it again, I would do it again. Well, thank you for sharing. Thank you for asking. I mean, we are Team Alex. Oh, wow. And Kelly can f**k. I don't know. I don't think there should be teams. Let it be now. That's what your friends do. Stand up for you. You know, and I need that. You can be. You can take the high road. Perhaps now I'll take the low road. f**k off, Kelly. Well, and I think that's just one thing. f**k off, Kelly. One thing that we haven't addressed yet, Jennifer, and I know you're going to be so excited as you and Alex have the connection of she worked with you, but Alex and I were in the same sorority. Oh my gosh. So we are sisters. You are sisters. She says it's a cult. Do you think it's a cult? You know, looking back on it, I do have an interesting thought. I don't think, um, she was not near the hardcore sorority girl that you were because when she came to work for me, she never brought it up. I mean, you are like a nut about it. Cult mother. So like when Alex, whenever you do get pregnant and you have a daughter, will your ambition for her be for her to be the president of a sorority house? No. But I think it's hard to say until I have her, like I say she did in utero. Right now, it's not that it's a girl and I immediately went there. You said, no, it's like it's a Kappa Kappa in there. Yeah, OK, so we have a new game, but we're going to play with you and it is called had it or hit it. Oh my god. Welcome to had it or hit it. I would hit it at it. I hit it every day, sometimes twice a day. Had it or hit it. Kanye West had it. He's got to go. Had a girl, got a go, had it guy, go self-tanner. Oh, I would eat it if I could hit it, hit it. It's awesome stuff on the internet about your orange hands. I love him. I love the orange I put on blue the other day, and this girl helps me with my styling. And she said, That's that's our new color. Dee Orange is you? And then she was like, I know you're taking that as a compliment. I was like, I am absolutely OK influencing. You know what, I think a year ago, I would have said had it, but I'm in on it. You're hitting it. I'm hitting it, hitting it. For me, it's like some of the influencing is too much like there was recently, like a woman that's influencing and it's like school drop off look like if you're f**king planning out what you're wearing to drive your kids to school in carpool, it's too much. Well, I mean, you have bigger problems than what you're wearing to carpool. If that's like the focus of your life that you're going to like, put it on the internet. It's just too much. It's just ridiculous. It's too much narcissism that you're sitting there thinking about what you're going to wear to drop off a preschooler and that you think other parents give a flying back what you're wearing? Yeah, I would think that you wouldn't have the time. I don't know. I've never done drop off, but you don't. You don't. OK. OK. Had it or hit it. Group texting. Hit it. Yeah. I know you guys. Are you guys very anti it? Are you very habit at it? Every time I text that I'm in, I turn on the mute notifications because it's just, I mean, it's like an intercontinental ballistic missile going off your f**king hand. You're just going crazy. Yeah. I don't love it. I think it's like a party. I used to hate them because I couldn't keep up with them and how I like them. OK. It's like a park had it or hit it on lightning ism. I've had it overused one more time on enlightened ism. I don't know what I mean, and or just if I could like she had that loaded up, so excited about to bring in on Honest Kylie lead, I made the word up this morning. I had to bring everybody in on it just if I could be. You worked for me. I did this s**t to you. All that is to me all the time. I'm like, I don't know what to do. I knew the face that she would say, You made it Bob. She were incredible, really incredible by the actions. You did it right out of the gate. She did it. Oh God, it happened with toxic positivity at the beginning because I don't actually know what the term means, right? But then and then and then on top of that, you said we're anti or something. And so I was like, Holy s**t, I don't know what, right? I don't know if we're for it or against it. But then you gave me the clues. Alex, OK, had it or hid it. Marital advice? Oh, well, I don't want to receive it, but I do find myself giving it, but don't tell me anything about mine. I'll be like, Shut up. So is there a middle? Oh, a double standard. I'm I'm totally hypocritical on it. We are, too. OK. I mean, we're hypocritical pretty much about everything in this podcast. So not to be. Yeah, so marital advice, I would definitely say Fikeni. Hit the bricks, right? Had it. Don't give it to me. But if you came to me, Alex, I mean, I've given you a s**t ton of marital advice. I think you've given me the most valuable marital advice. Listen to that. Oh God, you just are leading her ego. That, but it was so pivotal at the beginning. Well, it was, you know, I think that because my marriage has been such an abject failure, right? You know that she's in doubt. That's who I want the advice from. Though I've lived both sides, Josh and I've been very happily married. And I mean, god damn. We have been rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. Miserable? Yes. And so I I think that the people that say stuff like, we never go to bed angry. Oh, that's horses**t. I think they can f**k right on the right. It's not sustainable. It's not sustainable and just lead with kindness. No, sometimes I want to lead with I'm so pissed off, and that's OK, right? But the person that's going to give me the advice, though I thought about this the other day because I was listening to a girl and she was like, The only reason I'm here is because I failed so many times and f**ked up, and I was like, OK, so then you do know, right? Right. It's relatable because nobody's got the perfect marriage. No, despite what people like to put out there on their Instagram and stuff. Right. Totally right. I mean, it's hard living with anybody is hard. Oh yes. And then I think with a marriage, you start off crazy in love when a jump each other's bones all the time, right? That kind of fades. And then you move in together, and then at some point you can look over at this person in the way they're breathing, right? Just makes you want to go crazy right under your skin. And then four weeks later, you become I got a madly in love with this person again. It's like a total schizophrenic style thing. Yeah. Last night, Graham was snoring, and he's never snore, and I woke him up four. And then this morning I was mad at him. I was giving him the cold shoulder and he came over and he said, I got to tell you the first thing about snoring is I can't control it. I don't know. I'm doing it. And I was like, You remember right when you traveled with me and we would share room and I snore, Yes. And you recorded me and I was up all night. She was up all night. Bless her heart, his worst grandma, Jennifer. Well, Jennifer, I've been married to Graham for four years, and he had scored one two nine seven one nine zero tolerance. And I was like, All right, have you had it? I had this. She had had it, and she's Alex. She's like, OK, listen, you were snoring. She kind of gets it off her chest and then I'm like, Alex, I'm sorry. It's okay. Let's go. Have a great day. I think she's so positive. It's so great. OK. Finally, Alexa had it or hid it. Hand-washing? Hit it. Look at this. Look at. She's washing her hands. Everybody. All you f**king haters. Alex is washing those orange hands of hers, and you can f**k right on off. But you told me one time in an airport that hand sanitizer does more for you than washing your hands in an airport because there are so many germs in the airport bathroom. And I do abide by that rule. I, unless it's you know, when you have to touch like all the handles and all that, then it's like all the people that have touched it. Now the touchless one, that's fine. That's fine. But yeah, if it's like you have to turn the faucet on all that, I'm like, f**k this, I'm doing hand sanitizer. I don't want to get all the additional vaginal germs to others on my hands, and the actual airplane bathroom is. That's the one that's the worst. So I mean, that's disgusting. It's totally I'm not even a germophobe like I don't ever even consider germs ever, except in a plane bathroom. Yeah, same. It's awful. It's really bad. Alexa, it has been such a pleasure to have you in Oklahoma City. Oh, thank you. Fun for all of us that we have all got to ended up in the gutter together making podcasts. You know, it's my it's our most asked when we do send in mean girl questions. Yeah, everyone will be like they'll send in Howard, Jennifer and pumps. And so one day back in December, my co-host Jordan, she didn't know anything about me. We didn't really know each other. When we started and came up to me, she was like a percent like a reality show or something. And I said, Yeah, you said I had no idea, but people keep asking us that, and I was like, Yep, well, here we had people say, like Kylie will put on who, who, what guest do you want to have on? And people say, Alex Bennett and I always have called her from the day that I met her. Alexa Marie. So y'all might know her as Alex Bennett. But to me, she will always be my sweet little Alexa Marie, who I adore so much and we cannot thank you enough. Thanks, Alex. Joining us on this podcast Listen up, listener. You know what to do. You have to do all the s**t. You have to like all the s**t, you have to write everything. You have to write the reviews. Like stuff, just go off on the internet, f**king go, Oh, all right, go off viral s**t. Please also subscribe to us on Patreon. After we get one million subscribers, pants will balance a wire hanger on her nipple only on I've had it. Patrons tell them when we're going to see them, we will see you next Tuesday because that spells cut. 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