Allegedly Wassa Happening #5

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This episode of Group Therapy is brought to you by Rosetta. Get 50 percent off at Rosetta Stone.com/ find today and Quint's go to Quint's.com/ find for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty five day returns. I'm Kaitlyn Bristowe. Your session is now starting. I wanted to. Welcome to the. Everybody, welcome to Off the Vine, I'm your host, Kaitlyn Bristowe, and it had been gosh, since 2018 that I had a podcast in person with these two many zooms, but the energy that is just so electric, we're all together. Girl's gotta eat Rayna and Ashley, and it is always a blast talking to them. So I know you'll enjoy this one. I'm so obsessive. We going to do this again. The last time we did a podcast in person was 2018 is that we said Yes, yes, that's embarrassing. We were really new and when we got that was we were in Nashville for our third third show ever and we got asked, do the podcast, we're like, Is this real? And then you like Instagram Story about it? We're like, Oh my gosh, because we were really so new to the game. Well, we had our old faces like it was a whole three year old faces. Yeah, you got new faces. Yeah, look, tell me more like botox. I'm not a lot of botox and filler. I'm a new teeth by the time I met you. Oh, you just haven't done a lot since I met her. I'm about to do a bunch. What are you going to do? Oh, and I have my third boob job. Oh, nice. So I've had three boob jobs since we saw it. Why? Three, Why have you had? So I had a production, which is something that I thought about for my whole life. I had like Triple F boobs. That's the biggest boobs you ever see. I'm five feet tall. Yeah. So I always wanted to do it, and I talked about it for so long. It would be so supportive and I got it done. And when I woke up, I was just like, I don't think he took any out. Like, I don't really know what happened here, and everybody kept saying, like, I would be like I had a breast reduction and people would be like, You're getting up, really? And it was sad. I laughed that I'm because there was no, I feel so bad for her. Like, I'm sorry what I like, Oh, you're gaslighting me being like all subjective and I'm like, It's not subjective. They're so huge. So things like, I guess we'll do it again. And he did it. And when they healed, they healed. My left breast healed. Like, kind of like with a deformity, why do you keep going back to this person? I did not forget the first time because he owed me a freebie fair. Okay, so it's like a very reputable guy, like really like a Groupon, you know, I like that she really wants like the best guy in town. Yes, I put up an Instagram Story. I said, Does anybody know anybody great? I got like a dozen recommendations for this guy's. The nurse on the way into the room was like, he does all the celebrities. He's so great. And I was like, Oh, plus me. And he did it a second time. And the way that this scar healed it kind of like ruched and the breast tissue never grew back on like the side of my breast. So it was like almost like an intent on my bro. And I just felt I was like, Can I go like this the rest of my life, which is like, fine, all bodies are beautiful, right? But I was like, I've been so far down this road. I spent so much money. Let's fix it. So I met this great guy here. His name is Dr. Daniel Barrett. He's an ally, and he gave me my third boob job now. Now we're happy. Now we're happier. Third time's a charm. Are we doing mine? You know, I know you're next about everything. I got my nose done in 2021. Really? Yeah. And it was honestly, it was just the best thing. Oh, cooking was something I'd considered for a while, and I went to this doctor in New York, New Jersey, New Jersey named Dr. Ovshinsky. And it's so funny because they reached out. The girl who works in like the front office was a fan and she was like, Have you? Girls would want to come in and get, you know, your botox or fillers were like, It's kind of far from Manhattan, right? But I go to his Instagram and he's like, the rhinoplasty guy. Wow. And I was like, Could you got a call? Maybe. Yeah, fostered a whole nose job, you know? And they were like, Sure. Yeah, I mean, I like a little bit of a deal with them, but I paid for it. Like, I was like, I don't know how much I want to document this whole journey, right? So that's like an honor, like a privilege to even have that on the table. But yeah, I like, you know, paid for it for the most part and had a great experience. And then just general you, you do one of those TikToks where it's like day one. I I did it. I thought so many of them right at the time, obviously, because my algorithm is serving me like what I'm searching for and I kind of thought about it. I did one the day right before I like went under the knife, and I like never follow through and the amount of half done ticked off. I have my drops. I go, I can't wait to finish off. I have this like drugged up, you know, out to get a side from one thing. People that do that. I'm amazed by what they do. Like Day one 14 of the healing actually made me laugh so hard, though, because I was like, I think I'm going to know getting a nose job. And I was like, when she was like on Monday, they had a look. We were my brother was getting married and this was like, still, I mean, we'd been vaccinated, but it was still like COVID. Yeah, ish, you know, and which was nice because I could wear a mask. We had to time it with, like my brother's wedding, and he was such an amazing surgeon. He was like, right at this, like three and a half. We point, you're going to feel fine, you're going to feel fine and photos and feel photo ready. And he was right, but it was going to be like and he was like, I look at you back. I was like, I know. Oh, so and you're happy you did. Yeah, and we do looks great, right? He came with me for the reveal and it was like, so emotional. Like, I saw that VIDEO Yeah. Like when they hold a mirror up and you know, it's like, Have you ever seen it? Show this one? Or like, I was like, Oh my God, that show. So I was like, Oh gosh, I was literally put like, thirty procedures on somebody. Yes, it was crazy. Yeah. And and then like, show the. Amir, after and they were like beautiful, no, like crying, but they like the dough damage. No way that we grew up. I say crazy, but like it goes to show you there's no ugly people, just poor people. If you have enough money, it's really true. It's really like I just we actually I like to talk about this all the time. Listen, I take lessons, try to be poor or ugly, do whatever you want. But actually, I like to talk about this all the time. We're super open about it because not you don't owe anybody information about your body. I really stand by that. But like, it is nice to have people that will talk about it and say, Yeah, I don't look like this just from naturally aging gracefully. I'm going through it right now with comments that people are making because they know they know that I'm scared of aging. So then the haters are like, You look old and I'm like, You know how to cut to the core of me, which is like, they don't even mean it. Like they just know they found a weakness that they just dug. But my brain believes it. But because I go, OK? And then everyone's like, Yes, you stop going under the knife and I'm like, You b***hes, wait till I go under the knife. You will know I f**king hate it and I am going to ride. I cannot wait when I'm. I don't know what age 65, let's say, and I want a facelift. I'm getting a facelift. I'm going to wait for that. I'm facelift at 52. Oh yeah, you can do the half. What's half? Well, last week, don't you just need to have? Actually, I don't know for sure, but you know who just did it and was like, open about it. She's a cat saddler. Oh yeah. And was really open. Oh yeah, yeah. And it was like, facelift light. Yeah, she's not that old. I do remember that. You're right. Yeah, whatever she did, I'm down. Yeah, I'll do it. You also have to remember that like, no matter what you do, Kaitlyn, like, everybody is going to have to to say like, yeah, you could get no work time. People call you ugly, you get too much work done. They're going to say, you trouvé and like, you're not a winner, so just do it right. Like, there's one celebrities. She just constantly gets drag because she just refuses to get anything done. It's like, we can't win. Oh yeah, no, no. If I if I actually aged like without the amount of botox I get in my face, people would be like, You look old, they are like, you look old because of how much botox you're getting your face. I'm like, That doesn't even add up. No, you can't win. And that's when I kind of find it funny. I'm like, You guys, I know what you're saying. You just are making you just are trying to hurt my feelings in any way that you can. I was talking to do Keltie Knight. Yeah, she was like, showed me a screenshot. Somebody just called her Kaitlyn Jenner, and they're like she and she goes, The amount of times people tell me I look like Kaitlyn Jenner, and I'm like, That's people literally just trying to be like, How can I offend somebody? Not saying, Kaitlyn Jenner is not beautiful? I'm just saying, you know what I mean? Somebody showed up to make to make you feel bad. You know, that's their purpose. Yes. Do you guys get haters? We yeah, of course. We we we say we have it pretty good. Well, you know, I think as a community, we have to. But I always think like if we really like gained popularity in a following. Like me personally, like in my 20s, I think it would have been bad news for me. I think I would have just let it be bothered so much. I would've responded to so much. I wouldn't have really been able to manage it. And I think that having it in our thirties and I'm 40 now, but I just we've learned a lot of how to like not take the bait and not to lean in because people really do know when you have a weakness, you know? You know, they just go harder on you. So I think we've learned of like when to even pay attention to something or let it roll off her back or I think I really have learned a lot. Isn't it funny that you do really have to learn how to know when you don't like this? So we just I feel like we're really lucky. We a great audience, a lot of women, they're really supportive. They want to help us. I think that she and I don't really lean into it and acknowledge it. So that kind of quiets people because they know they're not going to get your attention as much. And it's not the people don't leave those kind of comments. They will, but we just kind of ignore it. And I don't read comments on myself online. I would never go on Reddit. Oh, you know, I don't want to read the Instagram comments. Even it's just it's not healthy for me, and I'm really lucky I have a business partner. We have great people that work with us. We've great families, we have sounding boards. We're not impervious to feedback, but I'm just not going to take it from a stranger that I don't know. Yeah, I actively ignore it and like, I would never go and read it. I haven't read our podcast review since 2019. Like, I just don't. But when you're younger, like, this was the thing I thought when I was watching The D'Amelio Show. They, like, can't not read it and I get it. If I would've been a teenager or even my 20s like I would have like in a sick way, you have to soak it in or something like, I know, but get older and you're able to ignore things more. I think them at whatever ages they are more mature than I am at. Thirty eight. I don't understand like those girls are like, actually like they seem like they've got it figured out. Like they don't have that coming Thursday. They have a lot more they're vocal about, but more than what I had at their age, especially given their platform. My gosh, what didn't you both live in New York? Yeah, we just moved here. You just like one year? And do you miss the city in the winter? Too cold? I just came from there last night. We're really happy here, and I think we are such New Yorkers and media is in New York for us and we had these great careers there and we love East Coast. People were very much East Coast people, but yeah, we're really happy here. We love the weather and having homes and cars and which is nice. It's an easier life. I feel like that's a. Big transition. Yeah, I mean, I'm glad we got to do it together, we like always been on the same page about stuff, so we came out here January 2023, like temporarily forever, like we'll do three months with the Airbnbs. And I mean, honestly, within a month, six weeks, we're like, we're going to stay really leases and make it official. I don't know. Yeah, so I wish I could move. But if I did, it would be to New York. We have we get here. Yeah, we always like, you know, waffles, sometimes I'd like to come back, yeah, because there's a great things about both. I wish we could just like the places. I wish it was closer. Yeah, that flight last night, I was like, Are we there yet? Is it six hours at all while to New York? When you like, lose the time, you're like. That was a 12 hour day. Yes, like with the time change, but like when I'm talking, I leave my house at nine a.m. and I'm in New York hotel at nine p.m.. Yeah, like it is life ruining. Like ruining. And you get like me done so many podcasts. You ever you have over 300 episodes. We just had 300 last week. That's crazy. We're celebrating six years next month and we met you at our third live show. We've done like two hundred since that. All my life. I love live shows. There's so much fun. I'm doing another tour coming up. Oh, you are so excited. Yeah, it's been the longest. I've gone without doing one and I miss it and I love it, and I feel like I'm gonna have like a whole new perspective of it because I think I was burnt out the last time I did it and I was like, Oh, I shouldn't. I shouldn't do that to myself anymore. Now I'm like craving it. Like, I can't wait to get out and meet all of the vinyls. One is to start trying to decide that I think end of March. So exciting. Yeah, yeah. You got to take a break for you. Yeah, yeah, I did. I did go. I took a break. But I need to be like in the arms of the vinyls. Like, like, what is it called OutServe? That's what I do. Yeah, I saw that once it is a rush, it's such a rush. I do it every time it's you. Do you really every time? Yeah, yeah, I do it every time. That's iconic. Yeah, it's so fun. You're so small. Yeah, what if I try to crowd surf? They'd be like we dropped her neck. Maybe like just a short one. The tall one stays on stage. You could just like you can just like vision it and imagine. But watch through her. They can lift me up in a chair like a Jewish wedding. Yeah, we're tapping kidnapped the other day, and Ashley was like, I think I'm outside of age range to be kidnapped. I was like, That's a height range to be kidnapped. Somebody could put me in the glove box. I'm hip to. All is going to actually like my body. Look, she doesn't even fit in the trunk, put her back that put her bag with me. They'd be like, she'd never stops talking. Now, have you water back the Netflix American? That's why we're talking about talking about it and obviously were joking. Like, It's a horrible thing. We've lost sleep over it. But what a documentary the ending. Really, I won't say what it is for people who haven't listened, but like that made me was weep. Oh, sobbing. And also, I'd been so angry for hours. I guess at the very end, I lost my mind because it was so much emotions other than like, Well, again, I don't want to give it away, but it wasn't police management of the crime. But right? Oh yeah, lack of hours of like anger and being scared. And you kind of get this well, I don't I don't wanna give it away. But emotional release? Yeah, it was like losing a nice job of that. Yeah, that's exactly what happens without giving it away. Yeah, that's and I had just moved into a house by myself and I'm like, I know we shared, I'm so scared all the time. We're scared constantly. I'm about how you had a neighbor that live next door to me, who's this big, giant, gorgeous Israeli man? And he laughed, moved out, and I was texting him on Saturday night. Like, Can you please come over? Just sleepover. I think he was like, Come to this bar and I was like, I will literally, I'll pick you up at this bar will come over. I know I, my neighbor, Kate, my new neighbor came over and he told me he's an ex-cop and I was like, OK, all right. That's good. A little bit better. Yeah, nice. Yeah, that's your first time living alone. And in my 20s, I went into debt just to live alone. I cannot do roommates. I was like, I need to live on. I lived. I lived in like a tiny little shoebox. And then from my to like very back to back relationships, Sean and to Jason. Then like, it's been a minute since I've lived by myself. Right? What have you got yourself? A lot. Well, we're doing shared custody of the dogs. Do you split a month for this? Always two and two now? Do you ever just have one? They stay together. Yeah, they're obsess about each other. They like, cannot be apart. OK, that's fair. Yeah. So then I'm like, I love being alone. But at nighttime in a new house is very scary. It's a house like I've never felt more safe in New York, in my apartment building with a doorman, and I felt so I slept like so easy. Like, I sleep better here. It's like overall. But just in terms of being scared. Yeah, I like a house is so scary. There's all these entrances. Oh my gosh. And the noise, the noise as my house makes, I'm like Kevin and the movie Home Alone and like. The fireplace is like yelling at me and I'm like, Shut up. That's so hard. And I hear the noises are unbelievable. It's just I live by the beach and so like, just creaks so much. It's like, I don't know, it's amazing. It's just amazing house, but it's terrifying. And the beach I like, I listen. It takes me like six minutes to get there. It takes a few minutes, but I look more at the beach than I have to get out or like, Oh my god, I'll hear these noises. And I'm like, Rayna, these are the same noises you've heard every day for 365 days now. Even as adults, we get scared like little kids, and I think he's kind of cute. But then? You watch your documentaries like that. I know I'm not, I'm not. I do this to myself. I also fall asleep to Grey's Anatomy every night and then think I have a brain tumor every day, every single day. I diagnosed myself with something I've watched on Grey's Anatomy the night before. Like I, it's so bad I've watched her before bed most nights. My favorite one was the Michael J. Fox one. Have you seen that one? I don't know. You know, it's sad. I don't know. It's not. Not the current ones, but he like he thinks that Michael J. Fox hates him, and Michael J. Fox blames everything on his Parkinson's. He's like, No man has Parkinson's. I was shaking my head and then he, like, invites him over to his apartment and he hands him a soda, and he opens and it goes to his face. He's like, You shook this up where you give it to. He goes, No man. And he, like, totally pokes fun at himself. And it's this whole like, bit back and forth. It's so funny. I need to watch. I've just I started like later in life and I'm going back and watching old seasons. Oh, it's so good. And we like we've hung out with Larry, and it's just like Festivus hung out with Larry on a first name basis with Larry David. We were how? Oh, I know his wife. And so we have spent a little bit. Are you trying to act casual right now? He is trying. Not casual. OK, this is big. I don't like to say too much. Yeah, like for private people or whatever, but that's so cool. It's so cool. Longtime friends with her from yeah. Yeah, from before. That's cool. But I mean, we were like making him laugh. We're like, Oh my, oh, nothing like that on your tombstone. So I guess I would write that it was. It made him laugh. Yeah, I like group face time. My dad, my brother and I was like, You don't even understand what just happened. You don't understand. That's that is people would do weird things to be in the same room as him, let alone make him laugh to be like genuine. I would be like, I'm the funniest person alive. I'm quitting my whole career because if I made Larry David laugh, I happy. Yes. And he's so nice and genuine, and he's like, Is that character? But not, you know, he's not that right. He's like, he's like, That's how on the Ty's version. Is that like annoyed vibe. And he's just he's exactly what you would think. Would he ever come on your podcast? Well, just try him on and do pretty good. Pretty, pretty, pretty good. I would. I would pay any amount of money. Yeah, and we had every time you could ask. Oh, Guttentag. Most of you know, I spent a good portion of my life in Germany and have made many trips to Europe since I love experiencing the culture of every other country the food, the people, the experiences I just love. 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How would you explain your podcast? It is a comedy show about sex, dating and relationships that's like the short, you know, like Tag. But we really have heard over the years that people find it to be a podcast about the relationship you have with yourself and also like our relationship with each other and people go crazy for our friendship staff. Things like, you know, self-improvement, things like that, finding yourself and career and it still stays and not dating sex relationship vein. And of course, we want to make people laugh, but we really kind of it's just kind of relationships as a whole. I was scrolling through your podcast stuff, and I love the making the list like, should you make a list for finding a partner? Have you done that? Do you have a list? Yeah. So actually, it was her idea to do the episode, and then I did it as an exercise, and I just based on how she had done it and just thinking about what worked really well for me in the past and what worked really poorly. And I loved the experience and I made a list of over 40 qualifications. And like we talked about, I start four or five that were really important. We did some stuff that was we talked about like nice to have versus need to have. So like, I would love to have somebody six three, I guess I don't need it, I guess. But it was a really nice exercise to just check in with yourself and say, this is what I'd like to find in the world, right? Well, I made one in like August 2020 two, and at that point I was starting to get into this like, I really want a partner. I really read. I feel ready. I feel like I have the energy to dedicate to this and the desire and that I really made it my goal for, like 2023. Like, I really feel like I manifested it. And when I made that list, I was sitting down with a guy friend. It was just like a fun exercise we did over drinks, and he was very funny. He was like, Be a shallow if you want like, let's do height first, let's do that. Yeah, yeah. And there were still some qualities that had more depth, but it really was like all across the board. It was like twenty nine things and I really did forget about it. And then I met my now boyfriend and we've been together eight months. But like, I don't know, maybe four or five months in, like for I like remember the list I like literally out and I was like, kind of like, scared to look like. What was on that list? And I was like bracing for impact of the quote if he's not right, but I didn't care. I was like in it. I was in love with him. But then I pulled it out and he was like 28 of the 29 things. It was pretty crazy. Like, to the exotic physical. Like, it was pretty nice. There is something powerful about writing something down that you want and then the universe. Yes. And then not like the fact that you weren't like, you know, like not holding it out and like taking it to the date and being like, OK, but like, actually just like, yeah, but putting the energy of it out. Absolutely. And then going back and being like, Holy s**t, right? Yeah. And people's feedback on it was like, we got very little. We asked our audience, Do you think this is a good exercise? And we got very little no's, right? But somebody said, You know, I don't I don't think it's fair to like, make a list of qualifications for your partner, and I don't think of it like that. I think of it as like manifestation is less spiritual to me and more. I'm just like how you show up in the world. You say to yourself today, like, I want to find somebody with these qualifications, then you can go fish with the right pull for those things. Yeah, yeah. And that's all it is to me. I write out everything that I want, like goals, relationship, like how I want to be, how I want to show up and how I want to feel in the world like I feel like writing it down is like the first step to putting it out there. So it's like it's more of, I don't know. I think it's like a healthy practice to do. Yeah. So you're not like holding somebody to a standard where you're like, you must hit these requirements, you know? Yeah, like make it and then like, give it up to God, you know? Yeah, they don't like you don't. It doesn't. And if you find somebody that they're not on the list, like my point is like there probably other things you never even thought to put on a list, they're probably more than, I don't know. So I get really had a fun time with that episode. Was that recently? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. I feel like people could go back and listen to it and like, take a lot away from it because I I always did like a negotiable non-negotiable that feels a little more harsh, but like, I don't think so. You know, I feel like this at the top should be those like deal breakers. So you stay true to yourself in terms of the stuff that really. Matters. Yeah. I think the partner that you choose in your life, especially if you want children, will be the most important decision you ever make in the entire world. So why should you not put all the energy and thought into that in the world? We would do it for a job. But here's where my problem is I change so much in like five years of what I want to do year. OK, then I just change the guy every year because that's what I seem to be doing right now. I'm like, No, you didn't do that here. You two really long term special, wonderful relationships. Just because the end. Does that mean they weren't successful? I'm sure you've learned a lot. I learned so much. I always said that about the relationship that came out of The Bachelor, like specifically The Bachelorette, because everyone's like, Oh, those relationships never end or never work, and they always end. And I'm like, I actually think three and a half years is such a success in that world. 100 percent, yeah. Like, I think of it as in like dog years like Bachelor World here, it's like I feel like that was a really three and half years is a long time to be with somebody even outside of the franchise general. It's like they don't last in the franchise. You don't last anywhere. Relationships are hard. Yeah. That we can't speak on that or not. If it's like just because a divorce happened or a relationship ended doesn't make it a failure like right in a relationship for years, right? It's meaningful. Yeah, it always puts me in a place that I know I needed to be like, I am in such a like I wouldn't have been where I am right now without those relationships in so many ways. But so you've been with him for eight months. How did you meet? I can do this. I was prepping for this earlier when he was going to come out. I mean, it's a long night since you're you look in the mirror, mean like. So this is how we met. Well, I could tell you the story, you know, sedated. I just like it's second nature, but it's just it's long and we tell it in full at our live shows and things like that. But I mean, the abbreviated version is he came to a show, a girl's got each show in 2021, and he came with some friends and he and he came with his girlfriend at the time and he had this like, you know, loose crush on me, like in like a hall pass like celeb crush away, which I'm like, I'm not famous enough for that. But you know what I'm saying, like the joke is like, I well, really, I'm not that I shouldn't be your hall pass there. Yeah, there's only a thousand people. This is not Taylor Swift. So far, you know, so sweet, though. That's romantic. And we did some crowd work and talked to him and everything. And of course, I'm not trying to get in the middle of anyone's relationship like we're girls girls. Obviously, that goes up saying, but they did end up breaking up. Yeah, and we deemed, you know, post-breakup like he had to get me way before. Like, I joke that he like, did open what he shot a shot in a DM like before he was with that partner. But like over the years, just like casual, you know, flirty. He's, you know, responding hard eyes this and up. But I don't know. I don't really know this guy. And you know, he was hot, he was tall. He had a sexy voice at the show. But whatever, he also kind of seems like an a*****e like he lives in Boston. You know, obviously those two go together. Yeah, and he could be really sweet, but he's from Boston, so he just sounds like a dad. Right now, it's it's all like this whole thing. We went back to Boston this last May 20 23. Like, you know, a year and a half since, like we met at the first show. And I just like some of the dams like we'd been d. I mean, like, who knows, weeks prior? And I just loved it. And it was like. You know, are you coming to the Sharia still traumatized from the last time? Yeah, he was like, No, we're going to take you out and like, you know, one thing led to another and we've been together ever since, but it was kind of I was just thinking maybe we would hook up like, I'm feeling like I'm in town. This is not gnarly further than this was like birth control, which I was Hauner than ever. Those things are such a mind like that, though, you know the way that correlation goes. And so I was just like on the road, you know, safely since I'm off birth control and I just kind of shot my shot back and I think he was like, what? Like, he was like, seriously? Like, Do you like jokes? That was like the way I like, call my sister like he wants to meet her, you know, so cute. I like that. It was special. I saw what you said in the car the next morning. Yes. Yes. I didn't know what was going to happen either. And she got in the car. I we all went out to show her and him laughed. I went to bed, whatever she gets in the car with us and our assistant, Tessa, and she looked at me and she's like, I'm sad. And I was like, That's OK, guy. Yeah. Well, then who gives a s**t? You said, cause I like, Yeah, I get that feeling. Cause now we live in L.A.. Yeah. You know, it's and it's also. And is he still in Boston? Just like that, I lived in New York for six years. Like, it would have been so easy. So we have been doing the distance thing. But yeah, I've made the mistake of telling him that cute little story. And now he just brings it up all the time. He was like, Don't you miss me? She's like, I'm sad. And I was like, Well, sex isn't good with everybody. Don't worry about it. And I, yeah, I think I said I was like, I just think I'm going to miss him. Like I said, Yeah, knew I had it connection. Yeah, and everything kind of moved pretty quickly after and not quick enough. He's in Boston. I know. Yeah. Well, we're figuring it out. What is your like tip for people doing long distance? Oh God, I feel like I should have prepped for this question, too. Like, I mean, it's not really a tip, but I feel as though like if you both are really prioritizing each other and really both want to make it work like it just will work out. You know, I used to think when my favorite long distance relationship before they were no longer long distance with Heather McMann and Jeff, her husband, and we had her on two, and I feel like that was kind of her answer. She was like, I don't know. We just knew we were going to be together. So it just worked out. Yeah. This is a long time we've been apart. I'm going there this weekend and it sucks. But we do all the things we face time all the time. We're in constant communication. I love we share location. We have so much trust between us and we both really, you know, we'll sit down and pop up in and I've and like plan, you know, Q1 with our travel and our flights, and we just are both so committed to. I know, like I was like, Are we doing here like you on planning tonight? I keep asking her, like, Can you tell me your calendar? Oh, yeah, that's I gave my girlfriend my calendar recently because she's like, I can't keep up and I'm like, Oh, here we need to coordinate. But it's just, we're both super committed to it. So it's like, tell me about trusting someone and also having their location on. Those are separate things to me. We just don't. I don't know. I mean, out about it. Not for you, for me, because you asked somebody for it. They said, No, no, I would never ask someone for it because it makes me feel like I'm not trusting them. I don't know how it just kind of happened. It happened like when we were dating. We can say to you, you guys are like such a healthy relationship. You're like, I just want to make sure you look at me sometimes, but that's sweet. It's not. I don't even this is my own s**t. I just kind of s**t. No, but I understand that's where I thought it was a weird thing the couples did before I did it, and it just happened one day. I think we were trying to find each other at an airport honestly, like it was a weird place where you landed his notoriously bad at airports. And like when he lands, he navigates the world very well. And then we just left it on or something. I don't know. It wasn't like a discussion. It just sort of happened. And I felt good about it at first high. And then I'm like, Yeah, whatever. Yeah. I think every relationship, every couple is like a one size fits one there. So there's people who like, I don't I wouldn't have trusted them. And so I wanted their location all the time and I'd be checking it and like, you have to ask yourself, like, why do I want this? There's other people that like, you haven't. It's not a big deal. It's a safety thing almost like you just want to know where you are and you're safe at night when you get home and especially doing long distance. He's not trying to control you either, you know, in aspect, and you are an evolved, self-aware queen. You wouldn't be with somebody like that, right? Yeah, it's funny because I was at first I was like, I don't know. I kind of like to tell him about my day instead of him knowing I'm already at Raina's or this or not. And I just let that go. But sometimes it's helpful because like the other day, I was like, Babe, where is it a shell gas station around because of these gift cards in the shell? So like, I was like, I always see him, and he's able to act like he's really so quick on fire, like here if you only need to take a at life. And he literally was like, there's a shell of, do you write gift cards? Somebody gave it to someone like me when you were given us, but I think all jealousy. I'm if somebody said to me, Are you jealous? I'd say it depends on the partner. Like, I so I can't imagine welcoming a partner to my life at this age. At this point, that would make me feel jealous, but I've been. You can ask every person I've ever dated and they'd have a different answer to, Is she jealous? You know? And I think that, like the rules are different for every. Partner like I've had partners where I've trusted them so deeply that if they said to me, like my my a girl, a good girlfriend of mine and I won't take a road trip, I'd be like, How fun? Yeah, I'd be like, the two are you have. Oh, that's cute. You think you're on to that? That's such a good point, because I always thought I was just a jealous person, but I was just young and had dated the worst kind of really. And so I was so insecure in my relationship. After The Bachelorette, I was so insecure because he was insecure and I was insecure. We've both been jaded by other people, but like now, I'm like, I don't think I would. I don't think I have a jealous bone in my body for like. Right? Depends on the partner. Yeah, I suppose I'll talk about that on our show and I loved it. She talked about like relationship this figure and it's like, I do a thing and you react to me doing this thing and then I'm reacting to your reaction of this thing. And we are in this like interplay back and forth that like forever. I would, yeah, I wasn't like this with other partner, right? You know, for better or for worse, right? Like my and I'm older and I have so much more information. I've grown up, but like my current self wouldn't even recognize my self in my last relation. Oh, absolutely not. I was like bustin in his house. Like, Why are you f**king happy? He was like recording a podcast. He was like, What are you doing? Yeah, I'm like, Holy man. But I think people have already seen and heard right now because yes, that's I always, like I've said to my therapist when I started dating Jason before, I was like, What if I have my meltdowns? What if I go crazy? And she goes, What if you don't, though like this could be just a different partnership? And then I never went crazy. And I was like, I'm not crazy that I had the exact same moment. I would have done the other shoe going to drop, like, when? When are we going to start fighting? Yeah. And like hasn't happened yet because your you're still so traumatized from your past. Absolutely. Everybody sticks with you. Like, I'm still I'm traumatized for my parents divorce as like I like, and I'm a grown woman who does therapy like it's still things like get trapped in your body and every person affects you differently. Like even friendships like, I have some friends of etc. I'm a little more combative and I'll fight with them. I have other friends that are like she would never, ever raise her voice at me, ever. And I, my other friends are like, she has ripped me to shreds. Yeah, yeah. And that's because of how I react to that one person. OK, who doesn't like a little luxury every now and then, but I feel like it usually comes at the cost until I discovered Quince, which is my place to go for luxury essentials at affordable prices. So Quince offers a range of high quality items at prices within reach, and I got my favourite black cashmere sweater. Only 50 bucks, you guys. It's so versatile. It's comfortable I can wear it any occasion. They also have washable silk tops and dresses. They have organic cotton sweaters, 14 karat gold jewellery. And here's the real kicker of all quince items are price 50 to 80 percent less than similar brands by partnering directly with top factories. 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Am I making sense? Yeah, yeah, really nice. It's something that I think I'm like trying to really focus on, too. But I'm like, at the end of the day, I love relationships like I'm always going to get into another, another relationship. I just like it. I like partnership. I like a long time. I like, Yeah. So do you have any tips on how you can make yourself a priority, regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship for the listeners? I mean, I'm not in a relationship, so it's easier for me to make myself a priority. But Ashley and I obviously the is about dating, relationships, sex, but like, like she said, so much is it about your relationship with yourself. And so I always check in with myself and say, like, have I built a life I'm really proud of? Am I doing activities? I'm excited about my excited about work. Am I good with my family, my friends, my plans coming up that I'm excited about? And then if all that falls into place, like how nice to find a person like that to be in a relationship with, and I don't like myself all day, every day. I was like, kind of upset about something. The other day, I cried a little bit at night and I woke up. It was the new day. Yeah, you know, you don't. I think having self-love doesn't mean loving everything about yourself every single day now. So I have moments where I'm like, I don't like who I'm appearing as, and tomorrow you just change. Yeah, so I don't know if I hope that's a good answer. No, it is. Yeah, it's I love thinking of sleep as a reset. Yeah, like it really is. I feel like I'm crazy, though, about dreams. I feel like we go into like other realms and I feel like our body truly like resets and lets go of certain things totally for you to wake up for a new day. Absolutely. Yeah. And then, you know, we go to bed scared at night and we wake up, we're not scared anymore. Yeah, it's true. Every morning I wake up and I'm like, I didn't get hurt. I don't know exactly. I'm like, I made it another night. But also, do you kind of wake up and you're like, God, she is so embarrassing. Like the night before. You're like, Everything's fine, 365. You're fine in the daylight. And then you're like, Last night I had a knife in the bed. You know, I had light the dark, intrusive thoughts that come into my brain at 3:00 in the morning, and then I wake up and I go to silly like I do. I get embarrassed for like, 3:00 a.m. Kaitlyn. You know, like, she's like, So who is she? She's such a scaredy cat, like so insecure. And then like Morning Kaitlyn in the daylight, then the birds in trouble. I'm like, Oh, pussy. I mean, that's so true. And I was talking about this with Stacey on my last podcast and how like traditional self-care, like getting a massage blah blah blah of face masks. But I think of so many different things as self-care and like therapy. Or I was telling her, like, even sometimes getting a little drunk is like a self-care moment for me at home. Masturbation, like masturbation, big self-care move. Let's talk about it. We brought you some joy about your sex story. I know I saw you two come in with a bag and I don't know what that is because I got my mojo back recently, and so I'm really excited. OK, perfect. Yeah. So I'm very excited. You want to try your self-care? I'll talk about vibes only later, but you won't talk about your self-care. I mean, this is so different. Not personal self-care advice here. Like whatever. Yeah. Like, everybody, of course, is different. But what do you do? I mean, I think you have to give yourself permission to relax sometimes and like, be like just a piece of s**t. I have to give her permission to relax. She won't do it. Yes, thank you. She will not. Yeah, like really all I look like entrepreneurial. We work for ourselves. You know, we work really hard. Rayna has helped me with that of being like, you, you own the company. You just stop working. She's like, Rayna's, help me to be lazier. Ashley will say, sounds to me like, today is the day that I don't work that hard and it will be five p.m. and she will still be. And I'm like, Because to do that, but sometimes like. And a lot of people have a better have an easier time of checking out and maybe their job, you know, they just leave it at the office and they don't really have to always be surrounded by the, you know, life that they built for themselves. Like they are really proud of what we built. But like, I think I've had to learn to be like, You can just lay on the couch, you know, and like, watch the binge, watch something and like, Really? Be OK with that? Yeah. And then for me, like, it's always just it's like, I don't know, exercise sounds really am for self-care, but that's what resets my, Oh, I get rain. Oh, I like yoga, Peloton. And like, it's not that I'm so excited to do it, you know, but I know what it does afterwards. That's yeah, I've talked about this a million times, but I was so sick a couple of weeks ago and just not moving my body for one week. I was so depressed. Like, yes, crippling depression couldn't stop crying everything. And then I realized, Oh my God, I can't move. My body took my dogs out for a walk, came back, fainted because I just like, I actually fainted. I was OK. I was like, OK. But but I realized that just like getting out for five minutes, breathing fresh air, moving my body, like, I like heavy lifting weights like, I love it. Love it, love it. But like, if you don't like that moving your body for five minutes, going on a ten minute walk, a walk wonders you have to. And because I've had so many boob jobs since I've been, like relegated to my home for like weeks at a time, I'm like the last time I said, actually, I was depressed. I googled it. It said, like patients that have to be home for a long period of time, like seven or eight days start to experience symptoms of depression. You're not going anywhere. And I did this thing. I'm not really going to talk too much about it. But like I said, this guy, this message and I, it did not turn out really well. And I said to Ashley, like, it was like mean spirited. Like, I don't know who did this, why are when I got? Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I was talking to her about it. I was like, This is so not like me. Yeah, and it was just because I was a shut in for a week. Yes. I think when I think about my brother locks, my brother has just, I mean, has a high level of stress and that he, you know, runs a company he has to babies, you know, like they have their kids are like, he just got a lot going on. He provides for his family and he just has like a high level of stress and managing employees and things like that. And he just feels like family time like resets him like nothing else. And that sounds kind of that doesn't that's not relatable to everybody. People like families they hate and things like that. But I don't think you sometimes like seeing a person or a family member, something that like resets like, you always say it. He'll always say, like, after I've gone there or we've spent time together as a family, he's like, I needed that so much. I was like at such a high level of like stress and anxiety. So I like that he can realize that and like he knows when he needs to like, get it in. Yes, you know, like, that was your family. Oh, it's so nice, really. A lot of mom. She's a healer. Yeah, they're really loving and wonderful. Your mom's a healer. I just I mean, emotionally, she feels very healing to be. She really does. She's very like, chill and happy. And you know, Oh, I love that. Yeah, actually, family. And I mean, I like to cook a lot. I really I like to do a recipe that requires a lot of chopping. So I really. I like the way you are, you about a topic, and this is my confession. Are you like a Kindle daughter? I mean, I've never had a child. Every day I learn, every day you cook every day. But how do you shop? It's like, I don't even out like just YouTube. You'll find I don't have a technique. I'm just like going, I'll just you just. I like it. I mean, some people are good at it one time, like I had a friends watch, watch it happen. She was like, Oh my God, I didn't know I had a friend. Watch it. I cut you off anyway. So I like the job. I like to shop, and I like to turn on a podcast of a very specific requirement. I like it to be like, not too heavy, but I want to, like, learn something so. Kaitlyn, your show is perfect for that. I love Nick Powell's show of our show, but don't listen to it a lot in the room. I like comments by celebs I like. Yeah, I don't really learn that much for them. They just talk s**t on celebrity gossip, but I like stuff I like. I can learn a little bit, but it's not so heavy. It's like a little. I'm not gonna turn on the daily when I want to relax, right? You know, I feel that Rayna just sort of reading. So this is also her self-care. Oh yeah, I again my when I had my third boob job, I was just at the house, and so I crushed like all of calling Hoover's entire catalog. Yes. Oh my gosh, Colleen Hoover is my favorite. Yes, I read twenty five thirty books last year. I'm going to try since that's amazing. June a lot. Like a lot of books, I know I'm three three months. I'm three this month. Like Rangers lays outside of their teddies out and reads a book that sounds nice. It's nice. We back now. You just did out the my house is fully like hedge. You can't see inside, so I do get naked and I sit outside in the back. That sounds like very free on my vagina. That's good self-care, too, but you don't want to burn, but you and your Tate a little bit. We all got Sun in our poses on my birthday. Typekit actually, I every this is my embarrassing story. I think it's a thing. And like, you don't like Shailene Woodley. You talked about it and it's like, you know, you've seen it on Tik Tok and stuff of just like Sunny, we say, to entertain as a joke, but sunny in your perineum and just getting like, OK, I algorithm sucks. I've never seen this, but you need to be careful. Doctors are recommended by doctor live your truth. But you know, that's very sensitive skin that doesn't get a lesson you don't want to like. Get skin cancer on your labia, you know, but really just kind of like spreading, you're going to get some savvy baby vagina. What does it do? It just kind of blows your inside, and it feels nice and warm because you never get sun there and then you feel like a glow from within. I don't know what happened, though, and I can that I say hi for this day, we were going to like, set our perennials and Ashley's birthday. We're all through this house in Cabo. There was like 12 of us and three of us were like, We're going to go up onto the balcony so the guys can't see us below. We're going to sun our perennials. So me and our two girlfriends not actually get on our backs. But you get happy, baby. Just hug your knees up to your stomach. And just like buttholes, vagina. Oh yeah, like no underwear. But none of those things are looking at each other. We're like, our heads are sort of towards each other. Not as can see each other, right? Ashley walks out on the balcony and she could just see down straight into my vagina hole all over her. I know I feel closer to you girls than I ever had. I can't believe you saw me like that. What do you mean? You can't believe she saw you like that. You were laying in the happy baby outside while she was inside and coming out. I don't think I expected my vantage point to just be advantaged towards balls. Oh, I'm like a drone. And how long do you do this for? Like five minutes? Yeah, it's not too long. And you know you want to put a little sunscreen on there. I got I just don't want it to be coming to me and being like, I have skin cancer on my pussy now on an everyday, everyday thing, either. So it's like sporadically. Yeah, yeah. It's like a once in a blue moon. Yeah, sparingly. Five minutes, I'm trying. So anyway, tan, your final answer. OK, self-care. Sorry for some people, the face mask, some people down there say, Wow, I'm going to try. I'm sick of getting spray tan up there anyways. Too much? Yeah, exactly. Let's continue on the tape talk. OK, you have your own sex toy company. Yeah, tell me about this. We launched Rob's only in June of 2020 to its premium sex toy brand. Your branding is hilarious. Yes. Not that I'm with Jason anymore, but you sent me a shirtless photo of him. Oh, right. Right. Bank material. Well, we did like your original like boxes to people. So we like, took everyone's partner like, framed like sexy. But it was very funny. I liked it. Anyways, go on. All the toys are Bluetooth enabled. It connects to our app, so I got an app. Mm hmm. We're a tech company, too cool women in tech and you can have someone control at long distance within the app. Yeah, which is fun for long distance relationships. Wait, that's. Really cool. Ashley can tell you about this toy. It's really special. Well, I think we might have sent you the Raina before, which is our number one seller and then we're on version three of it. So we've every year we release a new color. So we did our 2022 23 and we just released the new color in the range of four. And it's like a wand on one end and a sucker on the other end, like an air pole sucks your clit kind of vibe. Yeah, but we brought you the Lucy, which is like our most petite toy. It's like a bullet and has different silicone sleeves to put on it. So you can really like for vibrators and one essentially. And I think we brought you some suck and blow gel to, yeah, vanilla frosting. Yeah, Yum. I mean, get ready to love a BJ. I mean, I can't even believe it. I like always itching to suck a dick now stuff because it's so yummy. Oh, what? Like, obviously, it's I try it. Is it sugar free? It's carbon free, sugar free and free again. So it's the same texture of lube you just put like one little drop and it just it's also vulva safe, so you can put it on a penis or a vagina. Oh my god. You know, it's delightful. And that is our favorite. That is our best selling flavor. Yeah, the list are so yummy. It makes your breath nice also, and it activates the sound, the saliva glands in your mouth. So it really does make like a juicer. Yeah, the juice, your blood. That's how you give like a peppermint patty blowjob for Christmas and like, that was one of the gifts for me. But I got my boyfriend and yeah, I'm like, You're ready to read them, babe. This is your fourth. Get married. I was just like, God, this tastes so good. Wow. Yeah, that is. That's quite so still so much of it, Kaitlyn. Like when we look at our numbers, right? And I laugh, we're like the amount of dicks sucking gel with, yeah, we both sound like a thousand just flew out the door. People just go crazy. Men should really be bowing down to you guys. Yeah, and they should be buying it too. Because, you know, we think that the vagina is like, naturally flavored itself. We don't need it, but you also can use it on the vagina is naturally flavored like butterscotch. Well, everybody's got their own. That's what I think. Mine tastes like. Butterscotch, you're facing A. What do you call it? It's sometimes it doesn't have a flavor or a smell, and I get upset. You know, I do mean you're upset about don't have them just like what's going on there. And then other times it does have a smell. And I'm like, That's awful. What would it be? I'm going to Chick-Fil-A yogurts. Oh, Chick-Fil-A, savory for me. Yeah, that's like, I want sweet, not savory Chick-Fil-A nuggets. Can you imagine fast the Chick-Fil-A? Yeah, yeah. Yes. Right now we're talking about like our vaginas. It's like a spicy mayo. He's going to send me a cease and desist. They're like, Ma'am, could you not? You're right. They're going to send you merch. They're going to send you like some seasoning. Actually, flavor? Not very Christian if I want mine to taste like whatever that is. But for us now? Well, now we'll spread it all over it. Yeah. Oh, I no, I need to find good down here. Good night. I'm sure that you have tons of people that would love to. Yeah. Do you think our sex drive gets more with age? Like we get more sex drive the older we get as women womens are do no well, I mean, there's so many other factors because I could talk about this forever in terms of birth control, because getting off the pill like changed my sex drive. Sex drive like monumental in a bad way. Or for the for the better. Like, I had one. Yeah, yeah. I was like, Oh yeah, welcome to the world, right, pussy? Yeah. So it's so like, because then you're like, Oh, and now I'm just, you know, at risk for getting pregnant. It's like this. I know God is not a woman. That's the most dumb thing about women's bodies. But anyway, I mean, I think that, you know, everything is going to decline eventually. But really, women don't have anything to worry about if everything's kind of like working as it should normally for them in their body in the 30s, 40s, 50s. I mean, I have been meaning to read this. But Cosmo just did a whole study on women after 60 sex after 60. So like Lisa, Rinna was on the cover and they just like, I love that they're talking about like older women of that age and their sex lives. And, you know, tons of quotes from women be like, I've never had better sex in my 60s, and my sex drive is all that. I masturbate all the time and you definitely lose lose lubrication as you age and we sell great lube for that. But yeah, I know those women for that. It's not really. I think that's more of an issue you hear about more with men, is their sex drive declining? And so that's another reason why I like an older woman, younger man relationship, which I'm in, but they're a younger z seven years. Oh yeah, which is not huge. But yeah, yeah, it's a nice age gap. Yeah, that is a nice age gap, especially because he's in his 30s. Yeah. Oh God. Yeah, I'm not going to be. Yeah, we can't go under twenty nine. I, I exclusively go twenty eight. But really, that's your move. I feel like I'm just attracted all these twenty eight year olds, but it's not who I want to end up with. And I do think sometimes age is just a number. It is like another like one size fits one kind of thing. I think her boyfriend or her partner is like an older soul, a little bit more. His friends are older. He's not. I'll get up all the time and party, which would be totally normal for somebody who's thirty three is not. Yeah, and then you meet other people who are 45 that act like. 22. So it's very that's so true. Different between everybody. It is, but the secretary thing also just anyone listening that's like, I don't have a sex drive anymore. Like don't just throw in the towel and like, chalk it up to age. Like, really explore what's going on there. Like hormonally? Yes. Talk to your doctor. Talk to another doctor. You know, really? See what's going on because we shouldn't be women in our, you know, 40s, 50s, even like, I don't have a libido at all anymore, right? You know, like, I don't think you should ever just totally give up and be like, Oh, I guess I'm too old now. I just feel need to try sex toys. I'm in my sex toy era. Are you? He loved. Yeah. That's why I got excited when you guys were coming in with a golden bag. I was like, I just am. And it came out of nowhere, but I'm in it. I'm in it. That's my era. I'm in. Do you find it when you have a partner that you're like sleeping next to her and you have like more consistent sex like because you had a long term relationship? Like, do you masturbate more or less? Does very does it have any effect on it for you? Because the reason I ask, I tend to masturbate more when I'm having more sex. Yes, I feel like the more like sexually active I am, the more I want it. And when I go through dry spells, I mean, I know that it's that crazy. Recently, I had to mind myself to masturbate because I've just been like less horny. Now I just and we have all these toys I have, like a I control next to my bed. You, we have like a tickle strong next to the trunk. Yes, but there's so many benefits to it. It just makes your day better, makes you sleep better. It makes you wake up better. All those things. Yes, it really. It's your body's meant to do that. Yes. Maybe we should be masturbating while we're tanning. Oh, I masturbate out there all the time. Do you really want to throw your way out? What I feel so again, masturbating in your yard? Really? Not in New York. Do you have neighbors? Yes, I have one. But again, the quiet I have is around my whole house and it's private. It's very private. It's a big backyard. They hear that, Oh no, I go. I just go manual on and outside. Oh, just to my bedrooms upstairs and all the way in the back of the house. It's one of those like the hedge clippers. You're like, Are the gardeners here today? Oh, this is right up my alley. Lock the gate. I'm like, Man, I think the gardener's is right to go into town. I do fingers only no choice when I'm outside the backyard. I like, that's so. But you are really brave. You are really brave. And also, like, there's so many delivery guys. The gate is locked. No one's ever caught me. I just sat here and I know I need to be in like a dark room. Yeah, I'm OK, too. Yeah, I do. I swing my arm over my eyes a lot. If I so dramatic like that, it looks like you're like a woman, like on a planting couch. And so you're not watching anything, you're just using the old imagination. Oh, do you have to watch every time? Yes, 100 percent of the time you are porn, except for when I was in the Bachelor mansion had to use the imagination. I'm so sorry. Yeah. So I love masturbating to like old memories or what? I love it. Oh wow. And I'm like in it all the like. I Cam has written a lot of like I can master the thought of myself, like giving a blowjob like why I feel inspired by a lot of stuff. Wow. Recently, I've been masturbating to possibly going down on me. I feel like I'm just you going down on you. Somebody else? Oh, I was like, you. That's a porn category, narcissism. Yeah, that's what I was going to say. I think that's under the category of narcissism. That's your sexual fantasy. You eat your own pussy. Wow, that's very impressive, though. Thank you. Well, now I'm feeling a little bit ashamed of myself. I don't know. I agree. We always say, just like, mix it up, you should. We do? I don't like, maybe I feel like a prude, sometimes because I don't watch a lot of porn. I'm such a basic b***h for lesbian porn. Well, I've always loved lesbian porn. Yeah, that's great. That's the only thing I watch. And we we actually had a comedian talking about on stage other night, and I just I always thought, like, why was I so into the lesbian porn? And I wasn't really into women like. But I found straight porn to be a little violent and not my experience in the bedroom. You found it to be violent like porn. Oh yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, that's how I feel. Yes, it just it feels the way that men are just pounding on a woman so aggressive and turn me on and it makes me flinch. Yes. Yes. Much of it is just it's made for men. It's really early. Yeah, I'm not. Not into it. Yeah. So that's why I think I really didn't really like straight porn. And I've quoted Superbad twice today now. But you're good. I miss it. No, this was on a different podcast today. I was like, I would a flag that. But remember when everyone is like plus, have you ever seen pee invades? Like, No, it's not for me. Yeah, I seen Dick go into the vagina. It's not for me. I'm like, That's me, right? That is stuff. I record it every day. You do. Yeah. Quote is your boyfriend a movie coder? Yeah, he is. And he Superbad is like one that we like. Yes. Or he set me, though like, yeah, like a man. Like, he was like, The funny thing about it. What does he say? The funny thing about my back is the fact that esterday, that's actually the photo. Is that the photo when I call you, Oh, you lost your microphone? Yeah, that's weird. And so from that Jonah Hill? So have you told me your confession then? Is that your vagina? Oh, that's a good confession, and it's a good confession. Well, I just I have a story. I'll keep it brief, but this is an exclusive for all of. This is something. So it's like a confession. And like Semien Barasa saying it was going to happen with Rayna and Tessa. I haven't shared this. I've tried to block it out of my memory. We don't know about it. Don't know it. So we were. Oh, it's not that salacious, but like, I feel like, well, I'll just get into it. So we were Tori. And this was like earlier in three. Yeah, we landed. And I don't even know subsidy. Maybe it was like Milwaukee, like late at night. You know, like coming from the West Coast to a lot of our tour dates was like an all day affair, you know, like like layovers the whole thing. So we land. And we had to get on a shuttle at the airport to like, go get a rental car or whatever, like there's nothing worse than like traveling all day. Then you're going to an airport shuttle bus. The worse, you know, get a lift. You're like, you're like, you just want to be in a hotel or wherever. And we're all loading our stuff on. And this bus driver, the bus driver goes, he goes. He said, Are you her mom about Rayna? Me? Raina's no, no, not TSA. I could be Tess's mom. I think Rayna, my best friend, she's two years younger than me and oh my. And here's the thing. If somebody makes like this happen to me one time in the mall with my friend and we laughed about it for years, but he doubled down. No, I clearly was not happy with that. I like choking back tears. And listen, today, I don't think it would bother me at that time. I was like, still single. I'm like, Do I look like a mother of a 38 year old? You know, like, and I was like, Oh, I guess that's a mother having feelings about turning 40 last year, you know? So I was like. About it, I was like, Are you serious? I got in Facebook, sir. And he goes, Why? I just thought, you know, was a case of doubling down on it. And I just thought you were right. He's like, Did you not hear me? Can you try the bottle? And I'm like, I'm having some talk where I'm like, Stop laughing, stop the Holocaust. Anything. I think of anything to stop laughing here, like trying to hit back. She works for us. She's like, I don't want to piss off my boss. And Caleb, I was. It was funny to me. I haven't spoken about it until one day. It was not funny at her, and I want to say that about her laugh. Dad was he was so rude like he when he doubled down and he was like the point of the question, like, OK, what if you weren't? There was no way there was no follow up. So like to me, I'm like, You clearly have offended a woman of a certain age. Keep it moving. You know, like, you thought you would have been like, I'm so sorry. My God, I'm like, I just thought you were tall, she short. You know? No, he was like, what? I just think that you're her mom. I feel like. You bus driver, I let me try to explain himself he's doing just so, you know, if there was like a part of you that thought I wasn't trying to insult you, I was, yeah. Just so we're clear here, I'm offending you. And this other time was like, I was my friend, Jenny. We were standing in line of Victoria's Secret like a long time ago, back when we were in the malls shopping inventory secret. And this woman, like, was looking at Jenny's leggings like they were these really cute, kind of like funky leggings. And she was like, Where do you? Where'd you get those? And I need it here. So I go. She asked you where you got your leggings, and I guess I was giving like mom energy like honey. Tell her, Where are you and make you? And I had this like, weird like shawl. And this woman goes, Oh, are you her mom? And like I, we just we laughed about it forever. It was this weirdly innocent mistake because I was serving like mom energy and I was all wrapped up, you know, and Jodi was wearing like slutty leggings and she called me mom. Still, she calls me mom. And it was funny. But this hurts so bad and to be so fragile on a shuttle bus at the airport at the end, when midnight in Milwaukee in the winter. Yeah, pretty thick. Yeah. And you're yes, I know that feeling like they weren't. I could tell that they wanted to joke about it and I was like, Stop it, too. And you haven't talked about it until right now. I know I was going to share this today. Oh my gosh. Are you so glad that she cleared the air now? I can, but we knew we could laugh. We knew she did something that was funny. You mean, like over there, like trying to. She's been holding in this laugh for a very long time. And in the bus drivers defense, I am very short. Ashley is a foot taller and she does get like, I'm in charge of this Operation Energy. Take it is like bad b***h, clean energy. Again, I was really hard. I struggled with turning 40. So there was and, you know, I was single like, whatever. There's just the timing was off, you know, like, if it happened tomorrow, I would really laugh, you know? Yeah, he caught me at a bad quarter. You know, I got it. And but it's just so funny because I was like, I could be tested about like I could. I could be. She is like a young cherubic face. She's 23, you know, like, I could be your mom. I'm 17. Right, right. And Rayna and I look so pretty and youthful that day to, you know, it's not like it was like, Well, it's an easy mistake. Her skin looked flawless. She had great hair. I've been on two flights for like 10 hours in the middle of the winter to Milwaukee. Looks like dog s**t. The way we walk, the way we walked into the Iron Horse Hotel in Milwaukee, where, like Drake's immediately like they were like with the bars about to shut down. We're like, We don't care. God, that's so funny. Oh, I'm sorry. OK, I get. It really feels good to get it. It does feel good to that. I'm sorry for laughing. You know it's OK now where she says, I'm sorry. Mean girls? Girls. Yeah, sorry for laughing. I'm sorry. I told everybody about it. Oh man. Now I wanna find out where you live. And just like, f**k with you. So bad. Like, hear you out on your balcony. I'm just like to start throwing stuff at you. It'll hit my body. Make making. That's all I mean. Look at your third boob job. I love having you guys here. It's so funny so far, I can tell you. So five years ago, when we came on your show and we were like prepping this story to come and actually, I'm in Nashville and it's like Town House and I'm sitting on. We're getting ready together. I'm sitting in the bathroom on the second, like in the sink, doing my makeup, and Ashley tells me the story about pink pants in our car. Yeah, and it's become one of my favorite stories she's ever told. She does it on stage, tells the whole story she can. I mean, the story can be like a 15 minutes or it's amazing. But the first time I ever heard it was what we were going to come on your show. I was kind of like, we were like, not nervous, but we were a big show for us to go on and and running it by Rayna. And she was like, Well, I was going to pee in the sink. We're like new friends. And she was like, Wait, I'm very I know you told the story, but really quickly, what happened again? I mean, I don't know how much, how much there was. That story is so long, and it involves me like sleeping with this guy that worked for my dad. I don't remember how. Oh, yeah, but I did. I mean, again, like, I don't obviously condone drinking and driving, but I was like young and stupid and irresponsible. And I did. I was driving and I'd been drinking. I was leaving an Eminem concert and I did see my pants in my car while I was driving it. Yes. And I still went home and like changed into another pair of like wet seal jeans or whatever. Like what over it? A guy that worked for my dad like it was just this nightmare of a night you did. But also iconic. Yeah, fact you just feed yourself, change your pants and white. And then that guy got fired. The next day. I was like, I did business with you. That's me crazy. I was still pretty early on like you could. I could turn back at that point. Thank God, you didn't. Seriously. That's incredible. Thank you guys for coming on today, guys. This we needed this. I'm Kaitlyn Bristowee. Your session is now ending. And if I'm being honest, I wouldn't mind a rating interview. You better dive into crime on Pluto TV, unravel the mysteries on shows like CSI and Criminal Mind, or follow the Clues and Blue Bloods and NCIS with thousands of free crime movies and TV shows. Pluto TV is the true home of crime. Download the Pluto TV app and start streaming now on live channels and on demand. 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